Soulful Living Wisdom and Relationships

From a Tao Science and quantum physics perspective, everyone and everything are made of information, energy, and matter (IEM) that vibrate at a given frequency. Everything includes that which we normally don’t see as material. For example, anger is made of IEM. It has its own message, energy, and matter (which is not filled with light). But we can transform this field of IEM by noticing it, acknowledging it, and applying practices that can shift the IEM toward positivity.

A relationship also has its own IEM. Think of someone you are in relationship with (a parent, sibling, partner, friend, colleague, acquaintance, neighbor, anyone…). This relationship has an IEM field. It has a certain amount of positive and negative IEM, the ratio of which determines the feel and quality of the relationship.

Now, imagine the field of a relationship when two people fight, speak or think negatively about one another, or are ridden with jealousy, competition, judgment, and complaining. The field of that relationship suffers with negative IEM.

At the same time, imagine what happens if just one person in this relationship knows how to check themselves and practice love and forgiveness, especially when the relationship is challenged.

It can shift everything!

Imagine further that this person knows how to work at the soul level, which means they can apply love and forgiveness and communicate kindly with the other one, heart to heart, soul to soul (not on the physical plane), while bringing in the light and offering healing. 

This is a relationship game changer that is very empowering. All it requires is some wisdom, a simple process, a little bit of “meditation time”, and sincerity. Once you have an understanding, some ground rules, and a simple process, you can work on any relationship you wish to. 

One thing we can contemplate is that the health of a relationship is often in the hands of the more enlightened one in the relationship. If you are more spiritually evolved or capable in a given relationship, you might wish to consider it your responsibility to heal the relationship. In fact, if we have a troubled relationship, it is a calling to heal ourselves as well as the relationship (to the extent possible). Relationship issues, especially those that cause any disharmony inside ourselves, flag negative entanglements and IEM fields in both the relationship and in ourselves. Our goal, living soulfully, is to heal and transform these to positive IEM fields so that we can be in harmony, etc.

Keep in mind that healing the relationship does not mean it will necessarily look a given way, or as expected. There are multiple potential outcomes that depend on many variables. What it does mean is that there will be love, peace, and goodwill in your heart for the other, and your actions will clearly convey this. No matter what you are called upon to do, it will be done with this priority.

Also, some people get confused, thinking that to love unconditionally means that one should stay in a given relationship, for example, or that one should be able to be happy with anyone, etc. But these are not the principles of unconditional love. You can love unconditionally while fully attending to your health, happiness, and wellbeing, taking appropriate action with love, kindness, and goodwill in your heart.

It can, however, be the case that we are tempted to bail on a relationship before our work is done. How will we know when it is done? We will have a certain degree of clarity, and we will be able to change the form of a relationship lovingly, with total gratitude and respect. Basically, we will treat the other with kindness because we truly do love them.

It is important to realize that the IEM field for a given relationship (e.g., between you and another) will include your entire soul history together, and that of your ancestors. It will not have a one-to-one correspondence to what you are consciously aware of or are experiencing in this lifetime, though current events will bring out issues and patterns that your souls have together. It is vital to understand this when we are faced with challenges in a relationship, so that we can put it into proper perspective. We can metaphorically and momentarily step away from current turmoil and remind ourselves that we have an entire soul history together, which largely defines the relationship’s field of IEM, which in turn plays a significant role in what emerges.

But we have the power to shift that and to heal the past. The solution is always the same – apply love and forgiveness – at least at the soul level, while doing as much as you can (and is appropriate) on other levels too. Having an informed perspective guides you and helps you maintain love, compassion, and kindness in your approach.

Doing the soul work in relationships is always a win-win. You will always have the power to clear (and continuously clear) your disharmony and negative field with someone, and by doing your work, offering love, and asking for and giving forgiveness, connecting with their soul and seeing all the goodness there is, you will heal yourself and your negative patterns while also healing the relationship and lightening the load for that soul, regardless of the exact outcome.

In closing, relationships help to heal and uplift the soul by helping us to clear up our negative information and entanglements and by promoting growth. Fortunately, we can apply Soulful Living wisdom and practice to get a clear and loving handle on our relationship issues and with regular practice, we can create positive shifts and transform our relationships.